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Top 3 Secrets to Incredible Lovemaking and Mind-Blowing Orgasms

 By Neo

So you want to be worshiped for your lovemaking abilities and your abilities to give women screaming orgasms right?

I was absolutely clueless in high school and college where I prayed to God that I wouldn’t die a Virgin.  Out of the pain and suffering of being terrible with women, I have since dedicated myself to every aspect of attracting, connecting, and pleasuring women.

I having been in a sensual community for 7 years hosting play parties where up to 200 people come explore their sensual and sexuality, giving various women orgasms 7am in the morning as a meditation practice, and have dated some of the most gorgeous and amazing women in the world from models for Budweiser, to models with 2 story tall pictures of them hanging from trade centers, to professional burlesque dancers and much much more. 

I went from lasting 5-10 minutes in bed and not knowing what I am doing to giving women 8+ orgasms as an average and you can too!  

I am going help you begin your journey as an incredible lover by sharing with you the top 3 secrets to giving women mind-blowing orgasms from my experience.  

Secret #1 Be able to give her 1-3 orgasms just with your fingers

One of the best technical skills to develop as a lover is your ability to bring a woman to orgasmic pleasure just with your fingers.  Regardless of how long you can last during sexual union, your fingers can always bring her to the orgasmic bliss that she desires which can alleviate some performance anxiety. 

Thousands of men were asked the question, “what is your main concern on the topic of sexuality?”  The number one concern is how long they last in bed.  This reveals how much men want to be men, to feel their “power” to last as long as they desire, and to give as much pleasure as their women can handle until they are fully satiated. 

Let me ask you a question.  If you had to choose between lasting really long and having your woman think you’re still bad in bed or lasting a decent amount of time and having your woman think that you are a God in bed, which one would you choose? 

Once the primal need to have sex is being met, most men have the core desire to give their woman so much pleasure that she absolutely worships his love making skills.  Lasting long in bed is simply a means to an end, and it would serve you to shift the focus from yourself, to drawing out the most incredible pleasures out of your woman if you want to give her absolutely incredible orgasms. 

I have exercises to help you develop your ability to last longer, but since that’s not the focus here, we won’t be going into it.  Yes, lasting longer can help you continue to draw out and co-create the most ecstatic multi-orgasmic potential in your woman, but once again, the focus should be turned from how long “you” last to how much pleasure “she” receives if you want to fully tap into her orgasmic potential. 

The amazing thing is that you’ll last longer in the process of making this focal point shift.  Furthermore, unconnected sex or rapid fire sport sex is considered the worst kind of sex for women, so you could be taking Viagra, pumping away for hours, and she can still think that you are terrible in bed.  Don’t take my word for it, go ask your women friends about this. 

You might be asking yourself, why am I going over how long you last in bed when we are talking about giving her 1-3 orgasms before having sex with her.  Well, your fingers are always hard.  Yes, remember this phrase well, “Your fingers are always hard”. 

Most men, when they are focused on their ability to “perform” often miss out on this obvious fact.  Your fingers will outlast your penis any day, so if ever you are a bit anxious about how you will be in bed, just remember that you always have your fingers with you.  In fact, once you give a woman 2-3 orgasms just with your fingers, you’ll already a better lover than most men she has been with.

Know that her first orgasm might take 20 or 30 minutes.  Many men might think that this is a long time which is “true” compared to how fast most men can cum.  However, compared to most epic events like a concert, any professional sporting events, or the Olympics, it is considerably shorter. 

If creating the most exquisite experience with her and drawing forth multiple-orgasms from her isn’t an epic event to you yet, then it might serve you to treat it as one.  In fact, her first 1-3 orgasms should be viewed as the first quarter of a football or basketball game especially if it is your first time connecting on this level with her.  

In stimulating her clitoris, you should play with very tip of your finger, the pad of your finger, the sides of your finger, and even the nail or back of the fingers.

Pay attention to minute changes such as the tones of her moans, slight involuntary twitches of the muscles in the vaginal area, color shifts in the tone of the clitoris and labia, slight size changes and engorgement of the clitoris, lube and the difference it makes for your woman, and the speed, tempo, and pressure changes that need to occur when your woman nears orgasm.

Also pay close attention to strokes that bring a woman up in energy versus bringing a woman down, which quadrant of the clitoris is the most sensitive, the direction that the finger approaches the clitoris and the variety of sensations that generates, the difference in strokes when stimulating the clitoris over the hood versus under the hood, when to apply more pressure versus backing off to elicit the greatest response, and gauging muscle responses on the labia, thighs, or toes for rhythm, pressure, and speed changes. 

For giving her a vaginal orgasm you want to stimulate the inside of her vagina and exploring the G-spot, deep spot and Fornix (left and right channels past the cervix) while varying the rhythm, pressure, speed, and location as well as using back and forth, circular, and tracing patterns with your fingers. 

When going for a G-spot orgasm, feel for the rough spot 2-3 inches on the roof of her vagina and gradually increase the pressure as you push up on the roof of this spot.  It might take 10-20 minutes before she reaches an orgasm from this form of stimulation so pace yourself and switch hands if your arms are getting tired, and vary up the speed, pressure, and location.

Make sure you have isolated practice where the pinky in your left hand gets to be as dexterous as the forefinger in your right hand in bringing her to incredible orgasms so that you can let go of technique and focus on feeling into her with all your senses in drawing out the most mind blowing orgasms out of her. 

Obviously I have no space within this short article to lead you step-by-step through all the details of giving your woman mind-blowing orgasms, but if you start to practice and notice the things that I have shared here, you will definitely get a jump start on developing your abilities as a great lover.

Secret #2 Access her clitoris while making love to her

Over 2/3 of women can only have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation.  Take this statistic and combine it with the fact that most women’s clit does not get stimulated directly during sexual intercourse, and you will understand why many women are frustrated at their inability to have an orgasm during intercourse.  Combined with the proper connection, one of the ways you as an amazing lover can facilitate her orgasmic pleasure is by stimulating her clit while making love. 

One of the most impactful aspects of love making that most men miss out on is the fact that you can access your Goddess’ clitoris with your fingers from almost any sexual position.  If you spend 25 percent of the time during sexual intercourse with your fingers simultaneously pleasuring her clit, she is going to have much more expansive pleasure and orgasms than if you did not put any attention on her clit at all.

This does not mean that sexual intercourse is not pleasurable for women, it’s just that to take a woman to her full explosive pleasure potential, you should seize the opportunity to stimulate her clit during intercourse which is something that most men do not consciously make the effort to do.   The varied sensations of having her vagina deeply penetrated contrasted with having her clit stimulated will also amplify both sensations and continue to overload her senses with incredible pleasure. 

You can reach her clitoris with your hand while in any of the three major positions of man on top, woman on top, from behind, and almost all of their subsequent variations.  Practicing this one distinction alone can double the amount of pleasure and orgasms that your woman experiences because you are adding a dimension that may not be fully explored otherwise through normal intercourse.

From the man on top position, you can access her clit with your left or right hand inserted between both of your stomachs.  From here, you can simultaneously be moving in and out of her while independently stroking her clit with your thumb, middle, or forefinger. 

If her clit is not well lubricated, use some saliva or lubrication from her yoni, otherwise, the added stimulation can feel too rough and harsh rather than pleasurable.  Since there is already pressure from having your hand between your bodies, the tendency is to put too much pressure on the clitoris too soon or to go too fast.  With the clitoris, go lighter and slower than you think in the beginning. 

Play and experiment with varying rhythms and ratios of thrusts to clitoral strokes as well as the speed and pressure with which you pleasure her clitoris.  Just this one simple addition to your love making repertoire is going make a huge difference in fully eliciting her pleasure potential.

The second major way to access her clit from the man on top position is to reach around her legs and access her clit with your left or right hand from underneath.  I love this way of accessing the clit because it does not put a hand between your bodies and can therefore feel like her clit is magically being stimulated as you make love to her.  You can harness any experience that you have gained in the isolated practice of stimulating her clitoris and apply it here. 

The vertical, horizontal, clockwise, counterclockwise, tempo, and location variations for unlocking her clitoral pleasure code is up to you to discover.  There is also the huge added dimension that you are connected to her with your penis so the key is to make it feel like the clitoral stimulation is an added bonus rather than the main event of your delicious sexual connection.  If accessing her clitoris in the moment would be too awkward and hinder your connection with her, then let go of the technique and take the moment to connect. 

For the woman on top position, you can most easily access her clitoris with your hand resting against her stomach and using your thumb to stimulate her clitoris.  You can also turn your hand slightly so the fingers are pointing upward toward her yoni and accessing her clitoris with your forefinger or middle finger.  The woman on top position is also the position where you can most easily stimulate her clit without the use of your fingers by the proper positioning and movement of her body.  Minute shifts in positioning and how you apply pressure to your woman’s body can create very different sensations while you are inside her. 

In the case of the woman on top position where she is sitting or kneeling on top of you, she can be moving on and off your penis in a vertical motion.  The other option is for you to slide her back and forth in a horizontal motion.  The second option naturally uses the pressure of her being on top of you and the sliding generates the friction on her clitoris in a marvelous way.  You may need to grab her hips and help create more downward pressure and to speed up the sliding back and forth enough for her to have delicious orgasms.  This way of applying the right pressure to her clitoris has generated multiple orgasms for many of my lovers so have fun playing with this movement until you have fine tuned it to elicit explosive pleasure out of your woman.

The last major body positioning in love making is to enter her from behind.  By wrapping your arms around her body, this is one of the best positions for using your fingers to access her clit because you have the use of the full dexterity of your hand and fingers to enhance each thrust into her.  Not only does this position allow for deep penetration of her yoni since your penis can contact her deep spot and cervix, the combination of having the depth of penetration with the dexterous stimulation of her clitoris can be absolutely exquisite for her. 

If you are leaning forward already, take the time to hold her close to you from behind.  Wrap your hands around her breasts and stimulate her nipples while you lean in to kiss her lips from the side or nibble on her neck from behind.  You can also rake your fingers lightly across the side of her body as well as tracing patterns over her buttocks and lower back while you are making love with her from behind to generate the most exquisite pleasure and contrast of deep penetration with feather light touches. 

Use your other hand to continue to pay attention to location, speed, pressure, direction of approach, and stroke variations (horizontal, vertical, clockwise, counterclockwise) as you are pleasuring her clitoris.  If you are used to using your right hand in stimulating her clitoris while making love to her from behind, also strengthen your dexterity while using your left hand.  Experiment with various fingers in teasing, stroking, and pleasuring her clit and be prepared to be pleasantly surprised at the incredible mind blowing orgasms you will give her.

Secret #3 The deeper your connection with a woman, the bigger and better her orgasms

This secret may seem counter intuitive, but almost 50% of all books sold in the US are romance novels.  This means that if you take ALL the books on business, food, fashion, computers, sports, science, travel, money, health, etc. they barely equal the sales of romance novels. 

Romance novel is to women what porn is to men.  If you are trying to learn from porn in giving women bigger and better orgasms, then you are looking in the wrong place.  Sport sex and crazy positions are what constitutes really bad sex for most women.   Even if you last a long time, bad sex is bad sex.  In fact, it might make it worst for women.  Once again, go ask your women friends to verify this fact.

Most men get their sexual education from porn which is made to get men off, not women.  Most women I know scoff at porn which wouldn’t be the case if it really turns them on.   In doing what the porn stars do, you might be unwittingly becoming a terrible lover for women, but it’s never too late to correct course. 

I think porn is a great source for entertainment, but a poor source for learning about blowing women’s mind with pleasure.  Biologically, women retain more sperm when they have orgasms which means that unconsciously, she will have more, bigger, and wilder orgasms when she is willing to have you father her child.

“Whoa!  Wait a second there, now we are talking about having children?” you might say.  Yes, we have plenty of contraceptives now a days, but the primal DNA intelligence still courses through our bodies.  This means that if she can’t fully choose you as a man, even if it’s just a one night stand, then she is not going to be reaching her full orgasmic potential.  Period. 

This means that if she senses where you just want to use her for sex, treat her as an object, have insecurities about yourself, your inability to be your word and be trustworthy, etc. then she is not going to open and surrender into the most mind-blowing orgasms for herself. 

Depth of connection is the foundation to incredible orgasms.  A house built on shaky foundation is not going reach its full magnificent potential.  Techniques do matter, but only about 25%, while the level she feels you care, adoration, and love accounts for 75% of her pleasure.  Once again, go ask any of your women friends or even women off the street about this. 

So yes, techniques do matter, and if you combine techniques AND build a solid foundation, it will amplify the effectiveness of the techniques.  For now check in and be real with yourself.  On a scale of 1 to 10 of pure primal attraction, where is your woman?  Do yourself a favor and choose a woman who is at least an 8 for you.  That way you won’t have to fake enthusiasm along the way. 

Now ask yourself, on a scale of 1 to 10, how willing are you to protect her with your life?  Too many men are being sissies and wavering about where they stand with a woman which I can assure you is not sexy.  It’s actually not that tough to choose to play at this level, just decide and follow through, it will show up in every aspect of how you be with her and when you make love to her.  She will open deeper with you and naturally have more expanded orgasms because of it.

Now that you have gotten clear about choosing your woman, you can practice one of the fastest ways to establish a deep connection by leading her into a deep gaze with you.  Just ask her whether she would be interested in taking 5 minutes to look into each other’s eyes and she will think she has just won the lottery.   Most women love making love for the deep connection it creates, and if you can lead her to what she desires, then prepare to be surprised at how wild she can be in bed. 

Just practicing sexual techniques to become a better lover is like just practicing foul shots in basketball without practicing your dribble, lay up, or three pointers.  How good of a player would you be if you were only good at making foul shots?  The same thing goes for being incredible in bed.  You need to round out all aspects of your sensual and sexual mastery to tap into your woman’s full orgasmic potential.

So after learning 3 amazingly potent secrets about give women mind-blowing orgasms, where do you go from here?  Well, practice makes perfect so begin to put the principles into practice.

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